And I was once quiet memorably informed by some colleagues that the explanation was that “you’re not really a woman, you’re a dude in a woman’s body.”All of these people believe that my relationship is a passing fancy and that eventually, when I’m done playing games, I’ll take the mature route and settle down with a man deemed socioeconomically appropriate.What they can’t seem to wrap their heads around is the fact that my guy’s working-class job is not some detriment or novelty that I’m temporarily willing to indulge.Apparently, women universally and immutably prefer to “marry up.” We want men who are more educated and earn more money, and this is the single most important trait we seek in a man. My boyfriend of four years—even though he is undeniably gorgeous, kind, and honest—falls much farther down the ladder of social prestige than me. I earned six figures my first year of practice and work in a firm whose letterhead is populated with Ivy League graduates.
I’ve always had an easy rapport with men and have never had any particular trouble attracting or holding their interest.
And I’ve received plenty of offers for dates from eligible men with the educational pedigree and earning power I’m supposed to swoon over. This perplexes many people, including my own mother.
Either that or I must be so hopelessly undesirable myself that I’m forced to scrape the bottom of the relationship barrel.
The problem is, in my own immodest opinion, I’m a solid competitor in the mating game.
As long as he treats his customers well and does his job competently, it doesn’t matter how he spends his time off the clock.
And he doesn’t have to worry about losing favor with his boss merely because he doesn’t express the correct opinions or play the right sport.In contrast, when I get together for dinner with my boyfriend’s working class crowd, it’s a party.There will be heated discussions of religion, politics, and sex.Here are three of the big ones.♦◊♦The nature of my boyfriend’s work gives him the freedom to let loose and be himself in a way that that many professionals just can’t afford to do, and that makes him far better company.Because success in a white-collar office is essentially a matter of public relations, professional life has an unfortunate tendency to whitewash one’s personality and homogenize one’s lifestyle.So no running to the grocery store on the weekend in your sweats, since you never know who you’ll run into.