White folks, both male and female, overwhelmingly made more contact with whites, which is hardly surprising since there are more white people on the site to choose from.
White folks were the most likely to seek out people of another race.
As a result, they have created apps that are extensions of their internet presence or are solely available on phones."[pullquote align="right"]"People present themselves in the best light online.
No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."[/pullquote]Match.com, e Harmony, Lavalife and Zoosk all have mobile dating apps for your Smartphone. Its users, 80% who are between ages of 18 and 34, make 1.5 billion swipes of photographs resulting in 20 million matches a day, according to Tinder vice president Rosette Pambakian.
Minority groups (those who identify themselves on OKCupid as black, Hispanic, Indian or Asian) were much more likely to stay in their own racial lane when in search of mates online. They were more likely to contact white guys than other Asian guys, which my Asian girlfriends tell me is because, in part, they’re not fans of the traditional role that girlfriends and wives have played — and continue to play — in many Asian societies.
They were more likely to respond to white guys too, but then again, all races were most likely to respond to white guys.
But then one cold night in November, I met a Match date in a bar in Greenwich Village.
I had a date for the next Saturday night for seven years.
But with 87 million singles in the United States and nearly 40 million dating online, it seemed a good way to meet someone.
"No one is going to respond to someone who says they are a couch potato and likes to stay home."I was lucky. (I have friends who have been on dating sites for years.) I corresponded with 50 women and met 15 for drinks, which is recommended over meeting someone for dinner. Because if after 15 minutes you don't like the person you are stuck; and for men that means the bill as well.
Lewis couldn’t tell how extensive the contacts were — whether these people had just exchanged pleasantries or had actually gone on dates or made it to the aisle. (MORE: Why We Don’t Trust Online-Dating Sites — but Use Them Anyway) Reaching out to someone of a different ethnic background may be awkward because online users engage in what Lewis calls “pre-emptive discrimination.” That is, they expect — based on the way race has shaped their lives so far — rejection, or at the very least, to have little in common with someone who doesn’t share their heritage.