Strained relations between former spouses are particularly problematic when they have young children to co-parent under a permanent parenting plan.
The potential for negative consequences is not limited to a former spouse’s hurt, embarrassment, or hostility at being publicly humiliated.
But naturally, if the partners are without each other for any length of time, they may want to be with "other" others, as the article mentions: Then there's the fraught issue of whether each party is allowed to see other people during the separation. "If one of the parties wants to date, this is not a trial separation, it's the end," she says.
", Elizabeth Bernstein explores temporary separations as a way for couples to step back from their faltering relationships in order to re-evaluate them.
(The article focuses on marriages, but I think it applies just as well to any committed relationship.) Rather than a preliminary step to the foregone conclusion of divorce, these temporary separations, planned out carefully between partners for a predetermined length of time and with guidelines regarding finances and child care, provide a cooling-off period with the added benefit of allowing the partners to see what life will be like without each other.
As with everything within a relationship, it's up to the partners themselves to decide what they're comfortable with during the separation, especially regarding how much and what kind of intimacy in dating is allowed.
But I would have to imagine that intimacy during the separation would make getting back together afterward difficult (although not impossible).
I also think that people are complicated and when you "couple" them it's even worse and can be very hard to figure out.
Having been through it myself, I think it's easy to create logical solutions and arguments for all kinds of advice, but in the end, I also think it's about giving people the space to figure themselves out.Given that goal, for all intents and purposes you are still involved with that person.But if your goal regarding the separation is simply to have free reign to play the field for a while, don't expect your partner to be happy to see you when you decide you're had enough.Most experienced Tennessee divorce attorneys have witnessed how a client’s dating during the period of separation has thrown a monkey wrench into the divorce proceedings.Second, dating while separated can have lasting repercussions, affecting the former spouses’ relationship long after the divorce decree is entered.People who are separated from their spouses may have a strong desire to be with someone, a genuine need for affection and companionship.