3 dates a week doesn’t sound abnormal for OK Cupid. As many people have mentioned in previous threads, OKC attracts a number of time wasters.That site is heavily populated by folks not terribly interested in anything beyond attention or a casual relationship. I’m going to guess that you’re a quantity over quality person.Hate to be the bearing of bad news, but let’s just say that that site isn’t known for attracting men who are terribly picky. Many of those guys are taking you out in the hopes of hooking up. That would explain a good portion of the rejection that you are experiencing.
My suggestion to you, OP, as well as to all the other women in your age range and above is to branch out. As for the guys who struggle, all the whining and sad sackery has to stop. Many of you sound like the 98 pound weakling who just had sand kicked in his face at beach.
If you want a certain type of woman, you need to up your game. You can say all you like how unfair it is that women don’t like nice stable guys but deep down you know that’s not true.
You go out with pretty much everyone who asks because you like feeling so in demand.
OK Cupid is like a fun house mirror in that it provides a distorted view of our desirability and attractiveness.
After multiple dates, if chemistry (attraction) and compatibility aren’t sufficient enough, you won’t move into relationship-ville.
To some extent, these rules require some modification when dating online.Trying to date in Manhattan as a woman in her mid to late thirties and older is brutal. Use OK Cupid, as it’s a great way to get dates and get out. But if you really want something serious, OK Cupid is just not the place to go.As harsh as this sounds, the odds are just against us. You are up against it on that site, competing with a lot of women in the same boat.Some will blame the other sex for their “stupidity,” others blame themselves for their inherent “unlovableness,” some keep trying the same ineffective techniques, some give up altogether. Start Problem Solving The first thing you do is stop blaming. Instead, see the problem for what it is, and begin attempting to solve it.As I discuss in my books, don’t blame yourself and don’t blame others. There is no one, and I mean NO ONE, who can’t get dates or find a partner who’s attractive and well-matched to you.Comment: Hi, I am wondering if what happens to me is “normal” in the dating world here in NYC. I meet an average of 3 guys per week, which some would consider lucky.