Knowing that you’re ready to settle down and commit to someone is a big step that we all come to face at some point in our dating journey.When this happens, be sure not to fall in the trap of immediately looking to find ‘the one’.Many churches hold events which offer Christians the chance to get together and enjoy an activity for the day.
With no disrespect to premarital surveys (I believe in their value), it would be nice if you could simply take a test, identify red flags and green lights, give them a number value, and calculate if you should move forward or not. Many people get married because of a fear of loneliness, of not having anymore chances in life to find love.
The thought that my friend is the last "fish in the sea" will tend to create desperation.
Is it possible that there might not be any red flags in your relationship now, yet issues arise later in your spouse? There are no guarantees that a spouse might not walk away from you, God, or emotional health.
What I've talked about here relates to red flags, some clear, some more obscure, which If you're still concerned about your relationship, talk to someone.
‘The one’ implies you are looking for someone perfect, and let’s face it – everyone has imperfections.
So unless you start to embrace this fact, it’s likely to be a long road in your dating adventure.
But, remember that values go beyond religious choices and having different core values in other aspects of your life can mean that you’d still have a good relationship.
For example, you could hold forgiveness as one of your core values, but your date’s imperfection could be finding it hard to let things go, this doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t date.
Is it wrong for a couple to live together before they are married? Does God have one specific person for you to marry? Can/should a Christian who is a virgin marry someone who is not a virgin? What should I do if I cannot decide who I should be dating? Why is living together before marriage considered living in sin?
How young is too young to be in a romantic relationship? Is it possible to love a person without liking that person? What are valid reasons for breaking up with a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Is it right for a Christian to date or marry a non-Christian?