For the study, supported by a grant from the National Institutes of Health, Birditt and colleagues at Purdue and Pennsylvania State universities analyzed data on 474 parents and adult children who were at least 22 years old.
"The parent-child relationship is one of the longest lasting social ties human beings establish," said Kira Birditt, lead author of the study and a researcher at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research (ISR).
"This tie is often highly positive and supportive but it also commonly includes feelings of irritation, tension and ambivalence." The study will be featured in an upcoming issue of the journal Psychology and Aging.
I mean if you wait "until it feels right" we all know it will never "feel" right because it's nerve racking as heck..... It's too bad because they were both very good people, each a pleasure in their own right.
The girl that I introduced to them was my ex-wife ..both are likely spinning in their graves for the $hit she proved to be. its never really affected my relationships one way or the other.
"Relationship problems like basic personality differences and parents providing unsolicited advice tend to cause more problems," Birditt said.
"It may be that these kinds of tensions are longer-term, and reflect deep-seated conflicts that you just can't escape, whereas conflicts about lifestyles, education or finances can sort of be put off to the side if you make an effort." In related, unpublished research, Birditt analyzed the strategies parents and adult children used to cope with relationship tensions.I hated it when i was younger, i was always freaked out cuz they knew i was trying to get into her pants When it feels right..you'll know...after only one date I wanted to invite this guy to meet my whole family for lunch...although it usually takes a little longer then that for me to bring anybody home... I'm pretty protective of who I have meet the family..it just felt right and he was totally down with it too After the first date... It all depends on how well the relationship is going and whetheryou each believe that there is a future! It also depends on whether it is a special visit orjust by circumstances, you will meet them, likegoing to the Cottage or something like that. you mean I have to introduce a man to my weird family?!?!?! Family is no different than meeting any new people.It doesn't matter when I meet them, they'll either like me or they won't. Parents should be met and introduced into the mix once your relationship is cemented.The good news is that both parents and children were most likely to deal with problems constructively by trying to accommodate each other's wishes when problems came up, working to find solutions to problems, and trying to accept and understand the other's point of view.The more intense the tension level, though, the less likely parents and children were to use constructive strategies and the more likely they were to try avoiding the issues or use destructive strategies such as yelling or arguing. Avoidance and destructive strategies are associated with poorer quality relationships overall.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.