They can cause some queer men of color to feel undesirable, which in turn can pressure some queer men of color to lie about their racial/ethnic identity in order to attract attention.
It is troubling to see racial hierarchies reified in online queer dating spaces because queer people should know better.
So I took my profile down and then put it back up, but this time with Jessica's photos.
Describe what happened when you first tried online dating?
The first time I put up my profile I got a trickle of messages.
And my experience was different than the ones my friends and people I overheard at the coffee shops and bars were having. And I had a suspicion that my blackness was playing a role.
I had a fellow Ph D student who was nice enough to let me do a photo shoot with her.
White lesbian women respond to Ok Cupid messages from other white women 49% of the time but respond to messages from women of color 47.6% of the time (excluding response rate to Indian women due to small sample).
White lesbian women respond to women of color 2.4% less often than to white women, but white gay men respond to men of color 6.7% less often than to white men.In the world of gay online dating, your race affects your romantic and sexual connections, whether your potential partners realize it or not.Systems of oppression based on race sometimes pressure queer men of color to lie about or hide their racial/ethnic identity in online dating spaces like Grindr in order to get positive romantic and sexual attention.White gay men also respond less frequently to messages in general than gay men of color.On Ok Cupid white gay men respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 41.4%, but gay men of color respond to messages from all races at an average rate of 49.3%.Queerness does not give whites a pass to be openly racist.