What is so bad about formalizing the arrangement so that we can all just go home happy?
And that's what it came down to: “The whole concept of a sugar daddy intrigued me, because even if I were dating someone traditionally, I'd give them money anyway.”In any case, Thurston found no shortage of willing candidates eager to accept his altruism, and he dated a bunch of them at once, feeling like a “kid in a candy store.” Eventually he settled on one very beautiful woman, 28, in real estate, with a Wells Fargo account that he could drop $5,000 into each month.
A note on the negotiation, from Thurston: “A lot of women put like $10,000” in their online profiles as their hoped-for monthly stipend, but “you just say ‘I'll give you $3,000’ and they say yes.” But he was still a novice at this, so he offered her $5,000, and she jumped at it. Thurston got his happy ending, and he never got scammed again.
And they really don't have time to woo a woman or to like, you know, answer your phone calls.”Kitten doesn't like to think of it as getting paid for sex—she thinks of the sex as just something that happens naturally when two people spend time together.
And she thinks of the money as a contribution a real boyfriend would make, just more.
Prada sunglasses, Jimmy Choos, Armani clothing, her Honda Civic... Kitten was teaching dance to kids for a while, and then one of the parents caught wind of what she did on the side, and suddenly there was no room for Kitten in the next season's teaching roster.
The woman who had protested against her, according to Kitten, had escaped her abusive husband by secretly setting aside extra money until she could afford to leave him.
But technology has affected this mini-economy twofold: First, as with any Etsy shop, anyone with a good to sell can now easily intersect with someone who wants this good; and second, it has created a culture of righteous entitlement, in which a fringe thing feels mainstream when you find enough people who participate in it.
Seeking Arrangement is just one of several sugar-dating sites, but a popular one.
Was she thin “but not anorexic, a shapely body, you know? He doesn't give them money until their second date, when they're in the bedroom, which sometimes feels bad, which sometimes chips away at his this-isn't-prostitution line—Thurston was raised Catholic, after all—but what's the alternative? Which is not to say that old Thurston is a bad guy.