In short, I’d like to go back in time and smack myself – my ass should’ve been going to college, not wasting time in a shitty job… One day, I came across a job posting online – a dating website was looking to hire community managers.
At that time, the economy was still in its post-9/11 slump, people weren’t buying many houses, and as a result? No matter how many times I asked, no one would assign me extra duties.
The job seemed simple enough: I was to make a profile on their site and “make new members feel welcome” … I poked around on the site to make sure it wasn’t anything sleazy and confirmed that it was just a basic, normal dating site – not unlike OKCupid or
If you’re a female who’s ever used OKCupid and the like for any amount of time, you’ve probably received your fair share of absolutely creepy messages. At the time, I was temping at a small mortgage company by O’Hare, covering for a woman who was out on maternity leave. Back then, “community management” was limited to moderating comments, posting messages and basically making sure people weren’t going batshit crazy on message boards.
No, men will run a mile.’ She paused, then added: ‘Sorry, dear.’ I’ve never been someone who absolutely has to be in a relationship.
Whenever I was between boyfriends in the past, I would just enjoy life until another man came along — through work, mutual friends or our eyes meeting across a crowded room.
In fact, I’m guessing many of you men have, as well. I applied, figuring this was something I could do to distract myself while bored at work.
Now, imagine having to respond to every single creepy message you’ve ever received on a dating site – with the goal of would I do it? (Clearly my ethics weren’t all that great at age 20.) Low and behold, I got the job.
‘If a guy is going out with a woman in her late 30s, it is hardly going to be a surprise that she might also want children.’With that in mind, I decided to be honest about my desire for marriage and children — with surprising results.
I put a classified ad in Private Eye, which read: ‘Fun, attractive female journalist, 38, seeks romantic, sporty, intelligent guy, 30s/40s for adventures and hopefully LTR/marriage/babies/the lot!
Could you use a tip to help re-kindle that fire in your lover?