I’m not sure how a zombie fantasy would work, but for some people it might be fun.Whatever turns both of you on can be used to spice up the bedroom.
Studies show that more dopamine is released with novel experiences so there can be a real drive, especially with men, to do something new and different to get the same dopamine high and spice up the bedroom. Serotonin and oxytocin have a stronger effect on women’s nervous systems and are a major part of the reward system for women.
Men and women have the same experience of orgasm as determined by a comparison of written descriptions.
Snuggling up and watching a TV show or movie at home may be a nice experience for the man.
But it can be more deeply rewarding and satisfying for the woman.
During sex both men and women produce plenty of dopamine, the thrill hormone. It’s a real high, but in men, dopamine levels can drop quickly leading to a desire to repeat the experience.
Unfortunately the amount of dopamine produced in the brain decreases with repetition of the same experience.
But for most women one new experience may be interesting, but two or three new things at once can be overwhelming. Going on a special date is a great way to explore new feelings.
You can start to rekindle the feelings of romance and excitement with a date or a weekend vacation to a new place. You are looking to get back to those feelings of novelty and excitement that you had when you were first dating. First of all, don’t try to work through conflicts or problems on your date. Also you want to make sure you get higher dopamine levels instead of producing lots of comfort, so no discussions of what’s going on with the children. By worrying they are actually keeping those secure, serotonin-based feelings going and avoiding the novel experience.
I am always telling my patients that men bring awareness and knowledge of sex into a relationship and women bring awareness and knowledge about relationships. For instance if you’re going out on a dinner date, you really are doing a bit of role-playing already, because you’re pretending like this is one of your first dates.
And when you see it as role-playing it’s a lot easier to leave the kids, the chores and any relationship issues behind.
The relationship becomes a very comforting blanket that is an antidote for the stress and turmoil of the outside world. The answer lies in the fact that novelty increases dopamine levels.