Queer communities are often small and insular, and once you've found one, you tend to hold on to it for dear life.
They believe this is something everybody knows, that they're just following the rules.
What I've noticed, though, is that every person I've heard espouse this worldview was straight.
“The only time it might be okay is if your friend has moved on to another relationship,” she says.
“Even if the two of them have split, emotions take a while to heal, so it’s unlikely that the friend is going to be okay with it.” But not all relationship experts see it this way.
“If your friend is totally over his ex, has no romantic feelings for her, and wouldn’t mind being around the two of you socially, that could work,” muses Nina Atwood, author of “Temptations of the Single Girl.” “But look at all the conditions that have to be met!
The reality is that it’s just too weird and uncomfortable for most people to want to deal with.” Therapist Karen Sherman agrees.4) You are angry because she "should have known" that you still had feelings for your ex, because of all your hints, despite the fact that you said you're over him.I don't want to be too hard on you because I'm sure you are hurting, and that's payback enough. Well, the first thing you should do is learn from it.We know our backstories will be tangled and intertwined.I can count the degrees of hookup separation between my closest friends and myself, and usually come up with no more than two or three.Coping requires knowing your feelings, talking to your friend and deciding upon some strategies to keep your friendship intact.