An engaging, secure love relationship can be an ongoing source of support and happiness.
Good relationships strengthen all aspects of life: your health, your mind, and your work.
But everyone needs comfort and understanding from others and providing it to someone we care about is a pleasure rather than a burden. What you wanted and needed five years ago may be different from what you need now. Studies on infants have shown the importance of regular, loving touching and holding on brain development. Life without physical contact with others is a lonely life, indeed.
Learning to understand this “body language” can help you better understand what your partner is experiencing.
Think about what you are transmitting as well, and if what you say matches what you feel.
People who want their relationship to be good are given advice such as to fight fair, avoid taking out their problems on their partner, and to expect ups and downs.
This is good advice, but it doesn't take into consideration how negative early life experiences shape many people’s view of love and relationships.
However, if the relationship isn't supportive, it can be a tremendous drain.
Relationships get better or worse depending on how much or how little we understand and invest in them.
The emotional cues we and others need to feel loved can only be conveyed in person.
Without this kind of investment in quality face-to-face time, communication and understanding start to erode. Even when we’ve got a good idea of what’s important to us in a relationship, talking about it can make us feel vulnerable, embarrassed, or even ashamed.
This relationship with your primary caretaker may also have made you feel uncomfortable with emotions–both your own and other people’s.
Most relationship advice comes from the observation of people who are in either very good relationships or bad relationships.
Everything may have seemed new and exciting, and you may have spent hours just chatting together or coming up with new, exciting things to try.