Such an impossible restaurant, like a truly efficient online dating site, would hardly be expected to have enough repeat customers to survive; in addition, the fees that would have to be charged to one-time-only customers would be way too high to ever work.
The relatively risk-free online connection gave enough excitement.
So, if you're online dating be warned: some people are not looking for you, they already have their simulation of you, which is all they really want.
Whether it's how sexy someone is or how much money they make, I've seen many patients get trapped in such a never ending search for somone newer, better, brighter (Mu-Li Yang and Wen-Bin Chiou in an April 2010 article in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking use choice theory to research a similar point about "satisficers" vs. The only way out is to give up the search and find satisfaction in what may be good-enough.
One recent 20-something emigre to NYC from a small town found himself enthralled by choice: "so many women, so little time." No matter how much he enjoyed spending time with someone he met, he could never shake the thought that he'd be able to find someone better online.
I've had the sweet spot in mind the last few weeks while reviewing cases in which online dating was central to the therapy—its for a talk I'm giving next week at an academic conference next week titled "Dating, Mating, and Procreating in 21st Century America." What I've found so far are three features of our psychology that help make dating sites "sticky." It is by no means an exhaustive list.
Optimizing for optimizers Dating sites clearly have a favorite in the battle between "only the best will do" and letting "good enough be good enough." They want some people who always want more no matter how much they have.So have a look through the variety of sweets in our products section below.Online dating sites have got to find the sweet spot to stay in business.Imagine a truly efficient dating site, one with algorithms so good at matching people users would require one or maybe two visits before leaving the site to trip the light fantastic with their ideal dream mate. They would always have to be finding new customers.It would be like a restaurant serving such nutritious food that you would never have to eat anything ever again.There is also lots of research documenting growing use and acceptance (for an excellent, general bibliography about online dating see Professor Azy Barak's online biblio).