You need to cultivate these if you don’t want to end up falling for a psychopathic axe murderer. Online searching means there is no need to drag yourself to parties and social interest groups either.
In fact, any form of socializing has the potential to deplete these stores. You get to meet complete strangers (not always our strongest suit), who will then subject you to a barrage of intensely personal questions and judge you! There is good news too, but let’s get the bad news out of the way first. He said, “You can’t fuck up soul mates.” Write that down, and put it in your pocket. You should never feel bad for treating them as such, and don’t let anyone tell you different. You can use subtle ways to tell your profile visitors you are introverted, without standing on a mountain top and screaming down a declaration for the masses.
Dating, fraught with the anxiety and possibility of rejection and/or romance, even more so. Doesn’t that sound like the ideal situation when you’re looking for true intimacy and affection? The discussion of introversion has only recently become part of the larger cultural dialogue.
At large, this guide is written for non-introverts, but can also be used by introverts interested in dating an introvert as well.
For those still trying to decipher this strange breed and make the first move (since it’s 99.9% guaranteed introverts won’t), I want to provide you with the Rossetti stone of dating an introvert.
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You could find someone to sit across from at the breakfast table while reading your own newspapers, Kindles, novels, or whatever.
And proximity without talking is THE DREAM, you guys. And yes, dates are the necessary vehicle that will get you to this connection.
Ask all the hard and prickly personal questions online.
Make sure that you are sharp, observant, and discerning. Internet discussion can either be revealing or concealing of a persons true nature, and to some extent, a persons identity as well. Gone are the days of sitting in grimy, obnoxiously noisy clubs and pubs in the off-chance you will bump into someone at least sober enough to appreciate 50% of what you say.
This can be a pro and con, sifting out possible partners but also providing compatibility functions such as personality tests, likes, dislikes, values, beliefs, ethnic and religious backgrounds and hobbies.