You don’t have to give your kids every minute detail.
You won’t have someone prodding you to remember the dance recital or reiterating to you that there are no snacks after 9 p.m.
Essentially, you are going to have to spend some time getting to know your children all over again, and that’s why it is important to take things slow with your social life.
You need time to heal and take care of yourself, especially when you are trying to parent at the same time. You might be tempted to keep your dating a secret from the kids, at least for a while.
Now might be a good time to channel your energy towards your kids as you transition during your divorce, so you might not have a ton of energy for dating right now anyway. However, in my years as a therapist, I have found that secrets can do incredible damage to a relationship, even when well-intentioned.
That’s why I advise people to take time to heal and recuperate by following the “1/2 Rule”: Divide the length of your last relationship by two.
That is how long you should wait before dating someone again seriously.
However, many of these considerations can actually make you an even better version of yourself and help to make you more likely to meet the one.
Laura Berman, Ph D, is a world renowned sex and relationship educator and therapist; popular TV, radio and Internet host; New York Times best-selling author; and assistant clinical professor of ob-gyn and psychiatry at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University in Chicago. Berman is a New York Times best-selling author of many books on sexual health and pleasure, a weekly columnist for the Chicago Sun Times, and host of the radio program "Uncovered with Dr.
Finding a way to co-parent with your ex is crucial, especially when you finally feel ready to start dating to again.