However, dating or getting into a relationship needs to be for the right reasons. What better way to show him you really want him, right?
After all, it is possible to be single and to feel satisfied. Whether it’s love at first sight or a long-time friend for whom you have growing feelings, the beginning of a new relationship is usually a wonderful and exciting time. Maybe you’re HIV-positive and you’ve started to date someone whose HIV status you don’t know.
Now he’s suggested ditching the condoms and you’re not sure what he means by this. Or is he’s HIV-negative and he’s assuming that you are too? There are safer ways to express your desire to bring a new relationship to the next level before you stop using condoms.
It’s been shown that those of us who stop using condoms at the beginning of a relationship will nearly always continue without them.
If you’re starting a relationship and your partner wants to stop using condoms, don’t give in if you really want to continue using condoms.
After learning more about each others’ likes, dislikes and what we each want sexually, we can talk about opening up the relationship to other things. Some of us only fuck when we’re in a long-term relationship.
If fucking represents intimacy with your partner, there’s a chance that condoms might represent a barrier to this intimacy.
Those of us who have HIV may not feel comfortable disclosing our HIV status right up front, preferring to get to know someone first before disclosing this.
With a few rare exceptions, nobody intentionally wants to infect a new partner.
…you think that your relationship is monogamous, but haven’t actually discussed this with your partner.
…you’re both HIV-positive and figure that you don’t need to worry about HIV anymore, so why would you use condoms?
But the reality is that 25% of us who are HIV-positive in Ontario don’t know it. Let’s face it: We aren’t usually raised to discuss our thoughts and feelings with others.
Don’t be afraid to verbally express your feelings for him. Some of us decide to be monogamous with our partners for a period of time when we are in a new relationship in order to build more intimacy, trust and closeness.
No matter how you define your relationship, it’s important to think about how you can better protect yourself and your partner from HIV and other STIs. …you love your boyfriend and enjoy the sex but can’t resist the urge to fool around with that guy you keep seeing at the clubs.