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Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of times when just striking up a casual, platonic conversation with a woman at a bar is pleasant and enjoyable. But when I'm seriously interested in a possible romantic connection, I don't really love talking to someone who isn't interested for an hour. The guy Im dating is from MA and said one of the things that attracted him to me was that I was not like the girls in Boston.
This probably makes me shallow to a degree in some peoples' eyes, but it's true. He said it was refreshing to meet a chick who smiles and easy to talk to.
other cities because quickly shutting down a guy in many other cities is often met with outrage and many times name calling (Each one of them has been called a b**ch more than once for not indulging someone in conversation at bars elsewhere). There's no shortage of successful, attractive young people in Boston. Finally, I think approaching women in bars in Boston has helped me in other cities. Misdemenors, traffic violations, graffiti, littering, urinating, other offenses: Please attach police report from all previous residences. I enjoy that in Boston, 9 out of 10 times if a woman isn't interested, she won't give me the time of day.
For one, rejection is easy to brush off (I've seen people crumble because someone at a bar won't talk to them). Drug, alcohol offenses If a felon, was this felony perpetrated against a female? Career: Name of current employer: Current job title: Are you a CEO/VP/Executive? : Years at present company: List all previous employers / job positions and reasons for leaving. Sure, it means you have to have thick skin and the ability to quickly recover.
Sometimes I would just ask if a seat was taken or if she could pass my a coaster, and some girls would act like you were hitting on them. However, it sort of goes along with the New England persona in general (guarded, but direct and to the point). My experiences (I'm 25 and, as of a few months ago, single again) with dating/approaching women in other cities (namely, Dallas, San Francisco, Washington DC, and a few other mid-size cities) wasn't any better than Boston. They will take 2 articles of clothing that apart look fine, but will put them in the same outfit thinking it will look better..it doesn't.
I wouldn't disagree that in general (this is, of course, a sweeping generalization and individual experiences vary), women in Boston are somewhat less approachable than in other cities. The difference was that it was easier to just strike up a conversation with someone in some of those other cities. So I felt the girls around Boston most of the time looked "frumpy".On a side note, many girls don't know how to dress in Boston. I'm not single anymore (31 years old now) but was for most of my early to mid 20's and personally I had a lot more success meeting women in other cities.They will take 2 articles of clothing that apart look fine, but will put them in the same outfit thinking it will look better..it doesn't. Boston was difficult, the girls really have their guard up and are defensive from the start.Sure there are lots of college students, the majority are undergrads who will probably be and act too young for you.Those will be different bars that get old real fast.If you just wanna target people who are open to meeting new people, you got couple options: They have a lot of local group activities and singles-related events in Boston, so just joining a few nights will let you meet a good amount of women who are much less closed off.