If you were married already and someone kissed your wife/husband, you’d be pretty mad!
” Bill agreed with Sarah K., saying, “Hugs between two people who know they are attracted to one another should be brief …
Hugs involve even more physical contact and can be misused if one is not careful and/or has a weakness in this area.” Cheryl, 23 and married, said her “main concern was finding the person that I could continue a relationship with until the end (marriage).
Individual tolerances to holding hands or other touching may vary, so there’s no hard-and-fast rule.
But I would have done better erring on the side of strict conservatism in this area.” Kate, 28, who is married to Luke, wrote: “We didn’t hold hands till almost a year after we started dating.
So if that sort of thing is affecting your mind, where it’s like you’ve been hugging this person and all of a sudden you just have to kiss them, then uh-oh!
You’d better rethink your actions, because the godly way is to go in the direction of ‘flee from immorality,’ not see how close you can come to it!
If he didn’t meet my qualifications enough to that end, I would remain friends but never make any more physical contact than a hug here or there.” Before Kate and Luke married, they said, “We got into the habit of giving each other a brief hug coming and going sometime during the first year of dating.
It was good to acknowledge the way we cared for each other with something warmer than a ‘Hi.’ “It felt a bit stiff to us both as we grew to care for each other more, but anytime you are holding back feelings for the right time, things can feel awkward.
However, he explained to me that he felt like it was important that there be a physical means of communicating with each other and expressing the closeness that we felt. “One thing that both of us learned was that before marriage, if you are pursuing marriage with a person, anything has the potential to be physically exciting and distracting.