“A lot of Americans specifically want to date Asians,” he says.When Peter returned, he felt more proud of his cultural identity and started to see that discrimination was the problem, not him.
What terms and conditions have I involuntarily signed up to?
What kind of separate eco-system do I participate in?
People’s stereotypes of Asians also came up, and there had even been times when people had scoffed at him because he refused to take the “bottom” position in sex.
Joe throws back to the concept of a “whitewashed media” as he specifies an ideal that gay men worship: basically a white guy with abs.
However, Min highlights that “the problem with stereotypes is not that they’re not true. I feel like this pearl of wisdom held a lot of validity and truth behind it.
What were the incomplete perceptions of gay Asians that were floating around, and how did other gay guys negotiate their world?
“I’ve had people tell me that because Simon’s type is tall and Asian, that he’d just trade up to someone younger and hotter when I age in a few years — or even a hot white guy,” Joe says.
“For me, that’s a huge insult given it completely throws out anything else I have to offer in a relationship: watering me down to just my physical features.” When I asked him about his experiences on sexual racism, he quoted the obvious “no Asians” on hookup apps or people not replying after a sent face pic.
He thinks this fosters sexual racism from others and from within.