There are tons of stereotypes, but I don't think men 'not talking' is strictly a Japanese thing.Some men talk a lot, others don't, and the point is, men will talk when they want to and feel comfortable sharing their feelings in that way.
Now that I'm the stay-at-home type mostly, he's stuck paying for everything.
One of the funniest moments of our pre-relationship (we worked together, both nursing crushes for 6 months before I made the first move) was when we were talking about Bones and he mentioned that some Japanese men find Caucasian women very attractive. This is why it took 6 months to get things started. I'll jump in here as a man, if I may, although my situation is the opposite way round.
According to my Japanese husband, a Japanese man with a foreign girlfriend is seen to be 1) rich and/or 2) well endowed. Some of what you said holds true for my relationship, too-- like expectations of a psychic nature and general PDA, but because my guy spent puberty in England, he's a bit weird for here, I guess.
Their weird beliefs about genital size stretch so far as my husband's coworkers inquiring as to my "capacity" early in his days working at his company. I hate them and never have to meet them, and he gets to be known as Mr. Most of the really successful relationships between foreign women and Japanese men that I've seen involve guys who spent serious time abroad.
However, I was not looking for debate/critique of this article.
I was looking for other people to share their experiences to compare.
@smallbigjapan Sorry if that was seen as a critique - just from my perspective (dated a handful of Japanese men before marrying one), most of the Japanese men I've met have been straightforward enough, at least after initially breaking the ice (or a drink or two), so I think it depends on the person.
I agree with JTsuzuki, it's a lot easier with someone who has lived abroad, for better language and cultural understanding.
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