Flexibilty is crucial in making dating work in Argentina, according to Annie Ory, a dating and relationship coach from the US, so maybe I should let that debt go.
Working in Buenos Aires for three years with “blended” couples, she says: “Be flexible and adaptive when it comes to local dating and relationship etiquette, keep a firm hold on your own values, and don’t judge.
Dude dates are sacred and strictly guys-only, and the same goes for ladies’ night.
Belief systems, standards of behaviour and assumptions will be different.
It’s very common to experience extreme disconnects in communication, expectations and behaviours.
I went for coffee with a former colleague in London. I was left with a Starbucks-shaped logo on my forehead.
In Buenos Aires I rarely pay for coffee, a cocktail or dinner – unless I’m out with a foreign guy – and my forehead remains logo-free.
Robin Thicke had to have been cruising the Buenos Aires nightlife scene for background research, because the controversial lyrics of his “Blurred Lines” megahit echoes a cultural norm.
Here, when attempting to pick someone up or take someone out, “no” is not actually always a true rejection.
Or what it’s even worse: “We are the generation who doesn’t want a relationship but the problem is is that, at the end of the day, we actually do” – The Huffington Post.
A (other half) is kept on their toes from the early stages, needy and anxious like a sick puppy on a drip feed. The answer’s no, not for three days, Whats App messages will be key in the beginning. Unlikely and what if your castellano isn’t up to scratch?
Girls, perhaps as a shield against the chamuyo fired from all directions, are conditioned to almost invariably turn down guys at first and second, and maybe third approach.
And for the other half of this symbiotic relationship, guys are conditioned to pursue with total abandon, which on (unacceptable) occasion turns into grabbing a stranger’s face in a club and trying to plant one on them, totally uninvited.
My lessons in Argentine love kick off with a psychology degree.