The first few years, I was consumed with motherhood.I was overwhelmed with learning to adapt to my new body, which doesn't have sensation in some areas; paralysis affects my right hip, leg, and foot.When I married him, I was so young—24—that I didn't have a sense of who I was sexually.
It so happens that that is often done via what a relationship and its problems has to teach them. If we say there is, then we deprive people of learning, and hopefully communicating, about how they really feel and also to work through the relationship outside of its imposed rules, which is where two people have the greatest opportunity to come together in honesty as human beings.
If that happens, one is much better equipped to decide whether he or she is with the right person.
Viken says in the quote above, if a desire to see other people was a primary motivation behind the separation, that may signal that the relationship is too much danger for a temporary "break" to solve.
It may imply that the separation is less about re-evaluating the relationship and more about having a chance at guilt-free cheating for a while.
The week before the surgery, I discovered that I was pregnant with my daughter.
Becoming a mother and becoming a person with a disability at the same time was pretty much a mindfuck.
The explicitly temporary nature of the separation implies the hope of eventual reconciliation and renewed intimacy within the relationship, but the experience of intimacy with someone else during the separation may only make that reconciliation harder to achieve, because that hope may seem less sincere.
(Ironically, this may imply that couples may find it easier to reconcile after a "permanent" separation—one with no set ending date—than after a temporary one, especially if one or both partners saw other people in the meantime, simply because with the permanent separation there is no expectation of reconciliation and less feelings of betrayal to overcome.) Let's learn something from Ross: a "break" is not a "break-up," and if you are in a temporary separation, remember the ultimate goal is to get back together with your partner.
Well my situation is that initially my wife wanted a separation she said I was a trail for 3 month and we will see a therapist , when she moved out she decided not to stick to the 3 month and said when she feels like it il move back.