I got girls that I shoulda made pay for it Got girls that I shoulda made wait for it Got girls that'll cancel a flight back home Stay another day for it You got attitude on na na And your pussy on agua And your stomach on flat flat And your ass on what's that? [Verse 2: Drake] Fuck for free I know you workin' day and night to get a college degree Bet nobody that you've been with even know you a freak, right? Yeah, double checkin' on you You know I never put the pressure on you You know that you make your own mind up You knew what it was when you signed up Now you gotta run it up I be out of words, tryna sum it up Girl you throw it back like one love Even let me smash on the tour bus Yeah I talk to her but she don't do enough Even though you in the hood I'm still pullin' up Dip, dip, straight to your doorstep This the real thing, can you feel the force yet [Hook: Drake] I always wonder if you ask yourself Is it just me? Or is this sex so good I shouldn't have to fuck for free?
[Verse 1: Drake] I go on and on Can't understand how I last so long I must have the superpowers Last 223 thousand hours It's cause I'm off of CC And I'm off the Hennessy And like your boy from Compton said You know this dick ain't free!
Yet for all the salacious detail, she tells me that the most shocking discoveries were about herself: “I had really resisted articulating my own sexual desire.
I thought it was something alchemical, something magic that just happened when you met someone with whom you felt a sexual connection.
man [Hook: Drake] I always wonder if you ask yourself Is it just me? Or is this sex so good I shouldn't have to fuck for free?
And, yeah, I need it all right now Last year I had drama, girl not right now I was never gon' chat what we talkin' about You the only one I know could fit it all in her...
I was really surprised and embarrassed – but it worked!
” It is her reflections on the significance of the kind of relationships we have a tendency to dismiss that I found most moving: friends with benefits, Netflix and chill – or, as Witt’s friend calls them, “non-relationships”.
But I now know it’s something you can name and study, and the more you research and try new things, the more happiness you can find.” The most challenging realisation for Witt came from watching porn.
“I thought it was for men and not for me,” she explains.
“What I wanted for my friends, and for myself, was no more self-pity.
I want us to feel a sense of pride, possibility and agency; a sense that the story we tell about our lives does not depend on someone arriving with a life for us.” After all these experiences, one of the most important lessons that Witt has learned, she says, is that regardless of age, there will always be a route to pursue sexuality that is open to her: “Somebody will always want to have sex with me, either online or in person. And that’s a lot of comfort.” There has been an even more life-changing evolution, she tells me: “I had given up on love when I started writing this book – now I’ve fallen in love.” So having assumed her fairytale happy ending would never be an option, how does she feel now that it is?
She says that after everything she has experienced, she is no longer drawn to straight-forward monogamy – but she is still finding her way towards what a non-monogamous relationship might look like for her. I want to be able to be open to sexual possibilities, to be able to talk about this stuff.