; and "I'm not sure exactly how to describe myself" is code for low self-esteem.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
), but it gives the impression that you have nothing to hide; confidence is always attractive.
Get Photo-Ready Dating service How About We found that users who uploaded at least three photos received twice as many messages as those who had just one.
Upload seven, instructs Davis, who actually : "(1) close-up, (2) full-length, (3) close-up, (4) action shot, (5) full-length, (6) close-up, (7) action shot." Webb praises one sought-after woman's photo because "her hair and makeup didn't look overdone, but she had definitely spent time on both." In a study by the University of Rochester, women wearing red were found to be more attractive—yes, that old chestnut—and OKCupid reports that women get the most messages when their expression is flirty and their gaze is directed at the camera.
One night, after another bad match and a solo bottle of wine, Webb rejoined JDate—this time posing as a man, to check out her competition. Webb crafted 10 male profiles so perfect they had to be fake (sample code name: Jewish Doc1000) to gather data: what the site's most popular women looked like, which keywords they used, how they timed their messages.
(Duffon), one of three new books about online dating out this month, in which she recounts how she cracked the online dating code to meet her now husband.
For her own search, Webb listed 72 qualities, ranging widely from "Likes cities, hates suburbs" to "Mac person PC person." Davis suggests eliminating qualities common to "any successful relationship, like 'honesty' and 'trustworthiness'....
Instead, focus on attributes that would specifically appeal to you, such as 'thrill seeker'."5.
"I equate online dating to looking for a job," says Julie Spira, cyber-dating expert and author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.