"Things may be good now, but think 10 years down the road," he says. " Wooten's own father was 17 years older than his mother."My dad always loved sports, but he was not physically able to engage with me in sports," he says. If you hit it off because you both love rock climbing, consider if that's something that will be part of your relationship for years to come." 3. Another concern Leah had was whether she could submit to Travis as a spiritual leader."After we prayed, Travis took up the courage and said those exact words! "That's what I had been waiting for." Although many of the questions I receive are from women who are considering whether or not to date a younger man, many of the same principles apply to the decision-making process regardless of who's older.
If he had still been a "college kid," I might have had a hard time feeling like we were equals.
And while the same life stage can seem to erase an age difference, Willy Wooten, a licensed marriage and family therapist, who has been counseling for over 30 years, encourages couples to think ahead.
The problems we were talking through — for example, what if someday our sex drives didn't match up? We were just going to be more proactive about them.
The bigger question was whether or not God was drawing us together. Travis was also tentative when he first developed feelings for Leah.
" While it's fairly common for a woman to marry an older man, the reverse isn't as much of a social norm. Travis and Leah, who have been married close to 20 years, met while attending the same six-week missions organization training.
"Telling our story never gets old," Leah says, smiling.
"It feels like it wasn't that long ago." When Leah, a national of Singapore, first got to know Travis, who was 10 years her junior, she was attracted to him, but "I tried to tell myself it wouldn't work because of the age difference.
I fought those affections like crazy." But as an undeniable connection formed, Leah finally made a bold request: "I told the Lord, unless I hear Travis say, 'The Lord has laid it on my heart that you are to be my wife,' I will not move forward." The night before the two gave a group presentation together, they met to pray.
Even some 30-something guys I knew didn't seem ready.
But as I observed how he interacted with people at church and did his job, my fears were alleviated.
Also consider how you get along with the person’s friends, because these people will also be part of your life.