You decide to go whether to work or sit on the couch. I bet you never thought of yourself as a Decision Making Machine. I thought I was just doing “my thing.” But Seth made me realize that I had a choice: I can either go through life or make the life that I want. I have a close family member (ahem, father) who is the consummate analyzer.
You decided whether to read this article rather or play Mindcraft (or maybe both at the same). In other words, I can be passive about my future or actively shape it. No joke, when we were choosing what seats to buy at Yankee Stadium, my father insisted that we calculate the hypotenuse to determine which seats were physically closer to home plate. My Decision Making Machinery kicked in and I told my father that we needed to choose seats before someone else took them.
Let’s try to be as accommodating – and realistic – with each other as possible. This is what I need..”Sure, it may sting the other person a bit, and there could even be fallout, but when you are honest, you know with certainty that you will never be the asshole who didn’t keep it kosher, or the jerk who could be accused of cheating while your LTR was winding down. Not always so easy to do, but always the right thing to do.
Most importantly – whatever you say or however you choose to communicate – wrap it with love. What I mean is, share the message with loving energy.
My former client beckoned me over to his table as I sat down for dinner with professor Stephen Shore, who had been a guest at my class.
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He was easing me into the fact that what I make are decisions.
Each day you decide whether to get out of bed or go back to sleep. The term “paralysis by analysis” is one of my favorites.
They may have genuinely enjoyed your company or have even gone as far as fantasizing about sweeping you away on a magical honeymoon in the Maldives.
Whatever the case, you owe it to them to end things with a conversation.
You know, perhaps you are still having sleepovers here and there, or having long talks trying to figure things out. You tell both parties what is going on like a decent human being.
Or maybe there are still dates to weddings or family events to be fulfilled. “My ex just made an appearance back into my life, and he/she meant a lot to me, and I want to explore what this could mean.
Endless analysis is one way that you are guaranteed to get nothing done.